Friday October 30,2026

Our last full day in London. First thing this morning, we went back to Buvette In Neal’s Yard for their famous Pain Perdue. It’s worth remembering that they also have a restaurant in NYC on Grove Street. It’s a very nice place to eat, I love the ambiance, chic but approachable. Then a short walk back to the British Museum, this time with both Shauna & Jeff. I got a second look at the Rosetta Stone and Hoa Hakananai, the Easter Island monument. Checked out the Etruscan Gallery (Room 71). Not a a big collection but it had some things I had never seen before. The British perspective on who the Etruscans were is very different than what’s presented in Italy. I photographed the text to compare the 2 versions when I get home. The Italians present the Etruscans as friendly and well respected by their Mediterranean neighbors. The British version saw them as more adversarial. I’m not an historian, but the amicable version makes more sense only because in every depiction of an Etruscan (man or woman) they are smiling and relaxed. I have yet to see a sculpture or a painting of a smiling Roman or smiling Greek… just saying.

Lunch at NOPI, one of Yotam Ottolenghi’s many restaurants. He is someone I truly admire and I feel very lucky to have been able to experience his cuisine firsthand. I have made his signature dishes based on his recipes from The Masterclass. His restaurant did not disappoint, the food and ambiance were wonderful. The ladies’ bathroom was a 360 degree mirrored room angled to create reflections ad infinitum, took me a minute to figure out how to get out. It gets my vote for weirdest bathroom.

Then home, as we needed to take it easy and get ready for our departure. Flight leaves at 4 pm… we still have half a day.

10,026 steps, 15 flights of stairs (haha, my watch counted the escalator rides on the Metro as flights of stairs)

Thursday, October 29, 2026

I “oh-my-godded” my way through the entire morning and most of the afternoon. Another full and mind-boggling day in Londontown. Jeff and I started at the British Museum, where we saw, in no particular order:

The Rosetta Stone (OMG!)

A monumental statue from Easter Island (OMG!), one of the enormous carved human figures with oversized heads, created sometime between the 13th & 16th centuries. And guess what, the islanders want them back.

Something else I didn’t expect to find: a round library tucked into the middle of the museum. This was the famous Reading Room, where Virginia Woolf, Karl Marx, Arthur Conan Doyle, Beatrix Potter, and countless others spent time reading, writing, and doing research (OMG!)

And that's not all.

While we were having lunch at Buvette (best chocolate mousse EVER!), we received a call from Shauna. She had somehow managed to get 2 tickets to see the Bayeux Tapestry (OMG!) We had been trying for several weeks before the trip to get tickets, but it was completely sold out until January 2027. So this was amazing! Just one problem: our tickets were time stamped for 6 p.m., but we also had tickets to see Steve Wilson at the Royal Albert Hall at 6:45. A bit of a scheduling conflict. We decided to take our chances and try to convince the guard to let us in two hours early. The first guard wouldn't budge. But after he went off duty, we tried again with a much more sympathetic guard, who let us in at 3:30. Success! Almost. We then waited in line for another nail-biting hour before we finally got to see the Tapestry. (OMG!) It is LONG. Very long. More than 75 yards of embroidered history, beautifully depicting the Battle of Hastings and the Norman Conquest of 1066. Seeing it in person gave me goosebumps. I have known about it since college, and besides, it was in France for 1000 years. It was only on loan to England because the French were renovating the building where the tapestry is normally kept and rather than putting it in storage, they loaned it to England.

See how diplomacy works?

BTW, 1066 must have been a particularly ambitious year for England. William the Conqueror established the Tower of London, Westminster Abbey was founded, and the events depicted in the Bayeux Tapestry changed the course of English history. There was a comet that year, too, and it was embroidered into the tapestry. The 4 sweet old ladies from Wales waiting in line ahead of us told us to read “1066 and All That.” They had read it as children and said if we read it, we would know everything we need to know about English history.

We arrived just in time to see the Steve Wilson concert and relax to his beautiful & innovative music. It’s hard to define but it is wonderful.

It’s past midnight. Good night!

17,356 very happy steps (ok, sometimes running) or 7.5 miles

3 Egerton Garden Mews

Wednesday October 28.2026

What can I say about Westminster Abbey that has not been said before? It is a world famous architectural masterpiece that contains the tombs of some of the most influential figures in history. The word ‘minster” actually came from the word “monastery” so it means West Monastery. It’s majestic, gothic and grand. I walked around without the audio guide as I was having technical difficulties with it, but occasionally would come upon a private private tour and listen for a few minutes, just to get an idea of the history of it. There’s too much history and it cannot all be consolidated into a 2 hour presentation. However, there’s this: .https://www.westminster-abbey.org/history

I walked around and quietly admired, lit a candle for Charlie and my mother, after all, it is a church. It was crowded with tombs and way too many tourists. Jeff and I went upstairs to the Queen's Diamond Jubilee Galleries which was astoundingly beautiful and considerably less crowded, It’s high above the Abbey and the views from up there were breathtaking. The treasures on display were nice, too (more crowns and coronation paraphernalia) but didn’t compare to the bird’s eye view of the Abbey. Frustratingly, we were not allowed to take photos. I wanted to take some of the view below and the flying buttresses just outside the windows, I had never seen them up close and at eye level before. Every buttress was covered with different animals, no two were alike.

Afterwards, we went to the Florence Nightingale Museum, just across the bridge. Another titan in her field. She and her sister were named for two cities in Italy: Florence and Naples (Parthenope) both well educated, one artistic and the other scientific. The museum is humble, probably what Florence would have liked but she deserves more. There was a nice display about her in the Mathematic section of the Science Museum, but still, she deserves much more.

https://www.florence-nightingale.co.uk

9,954 steps

Tuesday October 27.

All three of us went to the Science Museum, next to the Victoria & Albert Museum. It covers every aspect of Science which could have made the day feel overwhelming: Space! Engineering! Technology! Flight! Economy! Energy! Special Effects! I decided to concentrate on Medicine and Mathematics. In both cases, the exhibits were all so beautifully designed and user friendly, especially for children. Such a great way to learn outside the classrroom! I watched as children gravitated towards the displays, actually sat through the short videos and were encouraged to touch the displays. And parents explaining things to children too young to read. Saw Louis Pasteur’s microscope and watched an emotional video about people with brain injuries and how medicine has given them autonomy and independence. Awesome.

Zaha Hadid designed the Mathematics Gallery's flowing, curved layout. It is inspired by historical aviation airflow equations and a huge Mobius sculpture wraps around a suspended 1929 Handley Page Gugnunc airplane. Also very awesome.

Walked through crowded Chinatown (at night!) before we saw the play “Stranger Things The Frist Shadow” in the Phoenix Theater. Set in Hawkins, Indiana, in 1959 (with an introduction from 1943), the story follows young Henry Creel as his family arrives in town, and reveals how he deals with his dark powers and the Upside Down. The ingenious staging alone was worth the price of the ticket: very fast paced, mind-blowing special effects and soundtrack (from the 50’s & 60’s, so very familiar to me!), illusions, projections, and smooth transitions between high school life and supernatural horror. Huge cast, tiny theater. Well done.

Sunday, October 25.2026

Shauna and I went to two places today: Royal Albert Hall and Harrod’s. I still managed to walk 10,598 steps or 4.47 miles. It was a windy and sunny day, perfect for walking. We have tickets for a concert at RAH on Wednesday evening and wanted to do a trial walk. Very pleasant.

And then there was Harrod’s. I started on the 6th floor and worked my way down, marveled at the Egyptian themed escalators, lingered in the Halcyon Gallery and in Home Fragrance(!) The Halcyon Gallery had 6 coffee table books filled with every drawing Bob Dylan ever made, a vanity project, at best. He is a better writer. There were other painters represented, Picasso, Jean Miro, and some lesser known artists. It was kind of ho hum. The Home Fragrance area was huge, I was mildly interested because I’m still looking for the orange blossom lavender combination that reminds me of Morocco. Home appliance wing was fun, as was dishware, including Ginori, my grandmother’s favorite, what else, clothing, shoes, leather goods, jewelry, computers, etc, it was alll too much. Bottom line, Harrod’s selection and prices cater to the 1% Happy to say that I have been there once. I have no desire to go back.

Monday October 26, 2026

This morning, we took the Tube to Sky Garden in the financial district. We had brunch at the Darwin Brasserie, surrounded by lush greenery and a breathtaking views of the London skyline. Despite the rain and overcast skies, from 36 stories up, we could see ships on the Thames and far beyond.

From there, we walked around Leadenhall Market a colorful galleria lined with lovely shops. I poked my head in Reiss and wound up buying some clothes. Then, a short walk to the Tower of London, the castle and fortress founded by William the Conqueror in 1066, on the banks of the Thames. That sentence alone blows my mind William the Conqueror. In 1066. Over the centuries, the Tower had two sets of walls, a moat stocked with fish, and even a village where the Yeomen lived—and still live today, including the Yeowomen! There was also a private collection of exotic animals, gifts for the man who apparently had everything. A bear swam in the Thames (tethered), while other animals were often not in their cages. I don’t want to imagine the gruesome accidents that may have occurred.

And the Crown Jewels. So many crowns Including my favorite, Queen Victoria’s, which was tiny compared with the others. Diamonds, precious stones, jewel-encrusted clothing—and the legendary Koh-i-Noor diamond. The sheer opulence was almost obscene. It was dazzling and overwhelming.

The Tower itself was an intense place, steeped in history—the good, the bad, and the very ugly. Prisoners, including Sir Thomas More, spent their final days in dark, cramped quarters. Some carved their last messages into the stone walls, leaving behind sad reminders of their lives.

For a long time, money was minted on the premises headed by… of all people…. Sir Isaac Newton, who knew? There is so much more to tell: there are resident ravens, rooms filled with armor & swords, tools & coins—both genuine and counterfeit— separate living quarters for the king & queen, and their fascinating biographies. Every room seemed to hold another discovery, another amazing detail, another piece of history. The list goes on and on. This place would require several visits to see everything it has to offer.

The one thing that lightened the mood was the Tower’s many Halloween displays and decorations, complete with live actors in frightening costumes who sprang to life just when we least expected them.

Boo!

9,930 steps

Wednesday October 21, 2026

Our first full day in Bath, a city with hills reminiscent of San Francisco.

Our apartment is open, spacious, and very modern, with a balcony overlooking the surrounding hills. Interestingly, it was once part of the former Kensington Chapel.

This morning, we visited the Roman Baths, another archaeological marvel. Like Corinium in Cirencester, it offers a fascinating glimpse into Roman life, but here the focus is on the Romans’ remarkable bathing culture and the engineering behind it. The Roman Baths are among the best-preserved Roman sites in the world. More than 300,000 gallons of steaming spring water, reaching temperatures of 115°F, flow through the complex every day! The engineering, the ingenuity, and the sheer technical achievement involved in creating this place are AMAZING. It’s hard to imagine how the Romans accomplished so much nearly 2,000 years ago. I would write more, but I am oh so tired right now. Here’s a good website to check out:

https://www.getyourguide.com/explorer/bath-ttd517/visit-the-roman-baths-in-bath/

After a quick lunch at Milk Bun, where we had THE BEST SANDWICH, we headed to Bath Abbey for a tower tour. While we waited for our tour guide inside the Abbey, we were serenaded by the sweet voices of a girls’ choir. We climbed more than 200 steps up a very narrow, winding spiral staircase. Along the way, we saw the clock-face room and the bell chamber, which houses 10(?) bells, some weighing as much as 1.5 tons! One of our fellow tourists told us that he had been a bell ringer as a young boy in York. Being able to ring one of the bells, he said, was the thrill of a lifetime. He was quite moved. At the very top, we had a spectacular 360-degree view of Bath and the surrounding countryside. The weather was gorgeous but really windy, our tour guide estimated the winds at 30 miles per hour.

On our way back home, we walked by The Royal Crescent and The Circus both stunning examples of Georgian architectural landmarks.

So much to marvel at, from the extraordinary achievements of the Romans, much of which was underground to the beauty of the city viewed from above, and a lot in between. It was another extraordinary day. Even got to taste the water at the Roman bath, it was warm, almost hot and had a distinct mineral taste.

13,300 steps, 5 flights of stairs, though it felt like 10!

Saturday, October 24, 2026

Jeff and I walked from Egerton Gardens Mews to Hyde Park, Notting Hill, Abbey Road and back, a whopping 27,196 steps or 11.84 miles, a new record for me. Forgive me if I don’t write more but I’m very tired. I had just enough energy left to take a long hot bath which turned my arms and legs into silly putty and crawl into bed.

Tomorrow, I’m sleeping in and if I feel like it, I’m going to Harrods.

Good night!

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Sunday morning,

Some random thoughts:

While we were strolling through the horse-riding area in Hyde Park yesterday, I overheard a little girl in a stroller say to her father in the most prim and proper English, enunciating every syllable like a Shakespearean actor: “Daddy, look! There is poo EVERYWHERE.”

Also it was the first time I had ever seen an Egyptian goose, they, too, were….everywhere.

We ate lunch in The Tin Shed, very close to Notting Hill. (I wish auto correct would stop changing Notting Hill to Nothing Hill) Where was I? Oh, that little restaurant was wonderful, the food had a Yotam Ottolenghi vibe about it. I thought it might have been one of his, it wasn’t. No matter, it was a tiny and excellent place to eat.

Notting Hill is very colorful, crowded and touristy.

Abbey Road Studio is closed to the public so we went to the record store next door. WOW, my Beatles albums are worth far more now.

Thursday October 22, 2026

We spent our last full day in Bath exploring the surrounding hillsides and nearby towns. We visited Lacock, the home of William Henry Fox Talbot, the inventor of negative-based photography and the Lacock Abbey, a 13th-century Augustinian nunnery converted into a Tudor country house. In this very Tudor house was written the Magna Carta on which our American Constitution is based. Then the ruins of Farleigh Hungerford Castle, built by Thomas Hungerford (the first Speaker of the House of Commons) and owned by his family for three centuries. Then on to Bradford-on-Avon, a historic market town and last, but not least, the quaint town of Mells on the Mells River, with its medieval streets and stone cottages. Many movies were filmed here.

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Friday October 23, 2026

I've been to Stonehenge.

I've been to Stonehenge.

I've been to… Stonehenge.

Not in my wildest dreams did I ever expect to see Stonehenge, so I was beyond psyched! S and I made the 30-minute pilgrimage from the visitor centre, and with the wind at our backs, we arrived a little sooner than expected. We crossed wide-open fields and passed through a wooded area—a quiet, meditative way to prepare ourselves, both physically and mentally, for what we had come to do.

To behold this sacred place, this holy burial site.

I think that may be the first time I've ever used the word behold in a sentence. Until now, I'd never really found the right occasion to use it. But yes, this warranted it. And behold it we did!

I still can't wrap my mind around just how spectacular and powerful Stonehenge is—or how very, very old. And its connection to the stars and the sun. I was so affected being there that I could hardly speak. It was as close to a religious experience as I could imagine.

As the three of us followed the circular walkway around the stones, the wind picked up speed. Taking photographs without losing our iPhones or our hats became comically difficult. It was also cold, and the intermittent raindrops hitting our faces felt like tiny pinpricks. The force of the wind was making my eyes water and my nose run. I found myself leaning into it just to keep my balance.

The clouds overhead threatened rain but, fortuitously, waited until we made it back to the car.

Earlier, we'd heard on the car radio that a severe storm in Cornwall had knocked out the electricity. Perhaps we were catching the tail end of it? As we were leaving the car park, staff members were closing the heritage site to incoming visitors because of … high winds. I couldn't believe it! Not only had we seen Stonehenge, but we'd seen it just in the nick of time. Simply amazing.

I was blown away metaphorically and almost physically. In spite of the inclement weather—or perhaps because of it—visiting Stonehenge was one of the most magnificent experiences of my life.

Thank you, S & J, from the bottom of my heart.

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And that’s not all. We got into London early enough to visit the Victoria & Albert Museum very close to where we were staying. There was an exhibit of the outfits worn by Freddie Mercury for his concerts placed in various rooms throughout the museum. In the tapestry room, we admired his clothes (and his tiny physique) to the sound of Bohemian Rhapsody. It was awesome. Freddie Mercury rocks!

Tuesday October 20, 2026

We left Bourton-on-the-Water this morning and arrived in Bath this afternoon. Just now getting settled into a most modern light-filled apartment located in a renovated chapel. But first let me catch up on yesterday.

We spent the day toodling through Stow-on-the-Wold, Chipping Campden (lunch at 8 Bells) Hidcote and Broadway. They are a short drive apart and have much in common, with slight variations in personality and vibe. The houses in Chipping Campden have undulating roofs of thatched straw covered with a tight wire mesh to hold it in place. So amorphic and almost velvety in appearance. When I looked closer, I could see that the straw had been trimmed to different lengths creating an ornate border along the top. It’s easy to see where writers like JK Rawlings and Tolkien get their inspiration. They just need to step outside and write about what they see. Ha. They do a much better job of describing it than I can. It’s really beautiful here. Someone wrote this:

“The Cotswolds: The quintessential picture of English charm - think stone cottages, rolling hills and village greens so perfect they could be a movie set. A place where the tea is always hot, the pub is always cozy, and the sheep are everywhere. It’s idyllic, it’s peaceful and the only thing more charming than the scenery is the local accent.”

If I could, I would add: the tea is scalding hot and about that local accent, think Keeley Jones on Ted Lasso with a generous sprinkling of “my lovely” and “my dahling“ and “my love,” pronounced “m’love” It’s all so…charming. I’m loving every minute.

Hidcote Manor is a grand estate with gardens and sheep out yonder, lots of history, lots of flowers, lots of trees, bushes, garden rooms, the works. It’s very much worth a visit. Here’s more info as I really can’t do it justice in this space. Even my photos don’t capture the pure grandeur of it.

https://www.nationaltrust.org.uk/visit/gloucestershire-cotswolds/hidcote

Broadway was the last stop of the day, there was a Gordon Russell Design Museum that caught my eye but it was closed. I googled him, he was a self taught furniture designer, influenced by the Arts & Crafts Movement. as well as a wood carver, calligrapher, sculptor and potter.

Today, first stop: Upper Slaughter, I walked around in a very sedate neighborhood, not a leaf out of place. Just me, the rain and crows overhead, very peaceful and quiet. Then, visited St Mary’s Church in Lower Slaughter, stopped for coffee and a biscuit in the very opulent Manor House. I asked the receptionist about the ladies room, she directed me up the stairs to the door nearest the baby grand piano.

Castle Combe, was probably the sweetest of them all, sigh. The houses were charming in their imperfectness, some were leaning, some were sagging, some melted into the next, none were straight, none were plumb. Not a straight line in sight, just heavenly.

Lunch at the Castle Inn, the best burger I have ever tasted. If I could find burgers like this at home, I would eat them more often.

That’s it for now, my dahling. Walked 13,000 steps and I am oh so tired. Happy tired. Ready to do it all again tomorrow. I’ll leave you with a handpainted sign at the entrance to Castle Combe: “Slow, free range children.”

October 17, 2026

Yes, Gladys, I’m on the midnight plane from Georgia. All thanks to Shauna and Jeff who generously invited me to share in another travel adventure with them. This time to London and the Cotswolds.

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The flight was all I could hope for: punctual and successful. My only complaint, and it’s a minor one, was that the cabin air was so dry that my hair had gone into airplane mode: flat and fly away.

Several hours into the flight, I saw the first hint of light across the cabin ceiling, I opened my window shade and watched the world below until we landed. We passed clouds, puffs of white, roughly of equal size, as far as the eye could see, perfectly spaced as if they were laid out on a grid. It was almost surreal, as though nature had arranged itself into a giant masterpiece just for me. We passed rolling hills, forests, tiny villages, lakes, rivers, a castle(!), countless windmills and fields of bright shiny solar panels. We were flying between the sun and the ground and, as we descended, I watched the shadow of our plane grow larger and larger across the landscape until it attached itself to the plane as we landed. Sky and earth meet for one fleeting second. It was beautiful.

The drive to Cirencester was pleasant, we passed fields of sheep and horses just outside the airport, then rolling hills until we reached our first stop. Shauna seemed undaunted by the fact that the steering wheel and oncoming traffic are on the right side. Traffic signs like “Give Way,” with emphasis on the word “Give” speak to British sense of suggestion. It’s so much nicer than the command “Yield.” “Thank you for driving carefully” was another sign. I tried to imagine American STOP signs changed to Please Stop. Mind blown. There is no road rage, actually, it’s road kindness. More about that later.

We spent our first night in the Admiral Sir John Talbot Inn, walked the streets and browsed the markets in the town center. Ate lunch/dinner at The Malt & Anchor, an award winner for its fish and chips, many years running. Shauna had a chicken pie with mushy peas & chips, Jeff, the award winning specialty of the house, and I had a stupendous green salad with fresh octopus, squid and mussels. The M & A deserves its accolades.

Cirencester was originally a Roman outpost called Corinium, There is much to explore tomorrow.

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After a hearty breakfast at the Admiral Sir John Talbot pub, we walked to the Corinium Museum, one of the most interesting archeology museums I have ever seen. It covered a wide span of the history of the Cotswolds, dating back to the Romans AND the civilizations that predated them, like the Neanderthals(!) So much to take in, my blog here cannot do it justice but their website will surely whet your appetite: www.coriniummuseum.org

I love love love this museum. It also covered every aspect of life through the ages so if you were only interested in say, jewelry & makeup, there was an exhibit about that. Tools and weapons, etc. In other words, something for everyone. Even user friendly interactive exhibits for children. Heck, I played with some of them! Archeology can be fun. The spaces were very thoughtfully designed, some with large mosaics that rivaled those of Pompeii. The List of Wonderful Things To Say about this museum is too long to recount here.

On our way to Bourton On The Water, we must have seen easily 2 or 3 dozen common pheasant, in the road, on the shoulder and in the adjacent fields. They are such beautiful and colorful birds and they were everywhere! We drove through the picturesque village of Bibery, where we took a leisurely stroll. I couldn’t help myself, I bought some Christmas decorations in one of the shops. I know Charlie is upstairs groaning but secretly happy that I bought something. We’re spending tonight and tomorrow night at The Lantern on Marshmouth Lane in Bourton On The Water, It’s a beautiful 3 story house, my cozy and adorable bedroom on the ground floor has more charm than I can adequately describe, a barrel vaulted ceiling, with muted beige-cream-white decor, plush bed with a mountain of pillows, a small writing desk, romantic lighting. Oh, Jeff and Shauna’s room is nice, too.

Dinner at the MouseTrap, a wonderful restaurant in town. J and S had the Sunday roast, I had sea bass. Another GREAT meal. Years ago, the Brits had a global reputation for being terrible cooks. Not anymore.

On our way home, it was dark and rainy, we misjudged the narrowness of the road and accidentally wound up with the front left tire hanging over a small ditch along side the road. Impossible to see in the pitch dark. And the rain. We were trying to decide what to do when someone drove up behind us and said he had to get through as he needed to be at the radio station in 20 minutes. He barely eeked his car by and drove away. Jeff and I unloaded the suitcases and walked them to the house. We did not know it, but in the meantime, Mr Radio called Kevin, a neighbor on Marshmouth Lane, who bailed out the car with his pickup truck. All within minutes. You know, road kindness. Thank you, Mr Radio and Sir Kevin of Marshmouth Lane in Bourton-On-the-Water.

Wednesday September 30, 2026

The last day of September…

I cleaned the studio today to the song “With a Little Luck” by Paul McCartney & Wings playing on auto-repeat. I hadn’t listened to the album, London Town, in years. It brought me back to the summer of 1978 (or was it 1979?) listening to it with Charlie at the beginning of our home renovation journey. We had been working every weekend, trying to make a dent in what felt like a monumental renovation. The bank had turned down our request for a loan that would have, at least, gotten the house livable in a reasonable amount of time. The rejection changed everything. What we had planned to pay others to do, we now had to do ourselves. We bought lumber as our meager salaries allowed, tackling one project at a time, stretching every dollar as far as it would go. Slow motion on steroids. Progress—if I can even call it that—was interminably slow. There was an endless list of things that needed fixing, lumber to buy, many weekends of work ahead of us. The house swallowed our time, our money, and our energy. We kept going because we had to. We were already doing things the hard way when one Saturday morning, we arrived at the house to find all the tools gone. Someone had stolen the tools that C’s father had given us. The means to keep going were taken away. We couldn’t work at all.

We took the rest of the summer off. The work on the house suddenly at a standstill. We were two people stuck with an unfinished house and no tools. We listened to With a Little Luck over and over. I’m sure we drove the other tenants in our building crazy. In the fall, we started over, one board, one hammer, one weekend at a time.

And now decades later, the house is a very different place: finished, lived in, and full of mostly happy memories. I am listening to With a Little Luck a few feet away from the spot where the tools were stolen and the distance between those two moments has collapsed. The room holds both versions of my life simultaneously: the unfinished house and the finished one. One moment, Charlie and I facing an uncertain future not really knowing if we could pull it off and the other, knowing that we most certainly did.


Thursday, August 20, 2026

While sipping my morning coffee, I looked out into the backyard and saw something I never expected: a chipmunk having what appeared to be the time of his tiny little life with… a worm. He hurled it in the air, chased after it, tapped it with his tiny paws, and jumped playfully each time the worm wiggled. He was completely captivated. I must admit I have never seen a chipmunk playing just like a cat or a dog would with its favorite toy. We tend to reduce wildlife to the usual—eating, fleeing, mating, nesting—and then something like play catches us off guard. I see chipmunks as energetic foragers, scurrying in and out of the ferns, stuffing their little cheeks with nuts, and diving for cover as fast as their little legs can carry them whenever I step outside my kitchen door. It was amusing and oddly charming.

A short time later, I was driving on I-20 and looked up in time to see roughly 2 dozen Canada geese flying overhead in a jagged formation. A second flock of Canada geese followed, but flying in the opposite direction, two V-formations of geese passing each other at slightly different elevations. I admired the ingenious avian air traffic controller in charge and wondered if the geese were momentarily confused, thinking… Wait, what, am I in the right group?

First the chipmunk, then the geese. Both had a surreal quality: the familiar behaving in a way I didn't expect, catching my attention and making the natural world suddenly feel briefly playful, undoubtedly a wink from C.

Tuesday August 11, 2026

Today would have been our 48th wedding anniversary.

I had been living without hot water downstairs for a little over three weeks, and this morning a very kind person came by and fixed it for me. It turned out to be a matter of replacing a part, not, as an impatient plumber argued, a reason to buy a whole new freaking tankless water heater. Okay, the part had to be replaced twice because the first one from the manufacturer was faulty. But still, it worked out in the end, and very cost-effectively, too.

This afternoon, I went to see my favorite cardiologist for a three-month follow-up after an outpatient procedure. So far, so good. Hot water heater and heart, both in working order.

That’s how I celebrated our anniversary. ❤️

July came and went in the blink of an eye. It was not without its share of melodrama, beginning with the sad news from Italy that a sweet cousin had lost his battle with cancer. On the home front, there was the flood in the utility room, the water damage to the porch soffit, the power outage, the malfunctioning house alarm system, the doorbell that stopped working, the dogwood tree in the front yard that suddenly died, and, of course, the aforementioned hot water heater saga. Oddly enough, this month I also developed arthritis in both thumbs, making twisting, gripping, holding, pressing and turning things surprisingly painful. A pair of compression gloves recommended by the Arthritis Foundation ease the pain somewhat.

But all of that pales in comparison to a family situation that began on my birthday and has reverberated throughout July and beyond. We are all still mourning the ripple effects of it, each in our own way.

Meanwhile, in The Garage, my never-ending arch-nemesis project, there are still more boxes to sort, more things to give away or fix, and more things that simply need to be somewhere else. I suppose that’s true of life, too. I tend to deal with what is right in front of me, one thing at a time, one day at a time, and am learning to trust the process and to be satisfied with the progress I make.

And so, on what would have been our 48th anniversary, I’m grateful for hot water, a beating heart, kind people who show up when they’re needed, a nice house, my family, even when family life is messy, and the memories that remain. I’m most grateful for the love of my life who made 45 of those 48 years wonderful and so worth remembering.

Monday, July 20, 2026

In March, on the third anniversary of C's passing, instead of making my usual pilgrimage to HoneyCreek, I decided to tackle unfinished projects he had left behind. There were three family heirlooms that had been collecting dust in the garage for years. Each held sentimental value and each needed repair/refinishing and replacement parts to be functional again.

I started with the easiest of the three: the lamp.

Calling it a lamp was generous. It was actually an antique pitcher with an ancient light socket embedded in a plaster-of-Paris base with a frayed wire dangling awkwardly from the side. The wiring looked like a fire hazard, and the whole conversion appeared to have been half done sometime in the 1930s. I was afraid to plug it in just to see if it worked.

For years, C lamented that his parents had ruined a perfectly beautiful antique pitcher by unsuccessfully turning it into a lamp. I never cared much for it myself—it was tacky and ugly—but after twenty years in the garage, it was time to make a decision. Either I was going to throw it away, or I was finally going to make it into something worth keeping.

I took the scrawny "lamp" to a lady electrician in Decatur to see if she could help. She took one look at it and, suppressing a laugh, told me she could absolutely get it working. We both laughed, actually. A few weeks later, I picked up the newly rewired, fully functioning lamp, chose a lampshade, brought it home, and put it next to the bed in the guest room. It is so sweet! I never expected to love it, but I do. Every time I pass the guest room and glance over at the lamp, I think of C and his parents. I know C would be very pleased with how it turned out.

The other projects in the garage were a pair of tables that had been previously stored in the barn behind C's parents' home in Vine Grove, Kentucky. They might even be a hundred years old by now? Each needed repair/refinishing and a new tabletop. I must have called every furniture refinishing shop in Atlanta, and every estimate was prohibitively expensive. I really wanted to save them because they were the last two things rescued the night the barn burned down. I was about to give up when my granddaughter recommended a friend who lives and works in south Georgia. She thought he might be willing to take on the project.

The tables are in his capable hands now. As I write this, he and I have already worked through several design decisions together. He has found beautifully aged chestnut for the new tops and expects to deliver them next month. I can't wait to see them—and to know that the last two pieces C wanted to preserve from his family's history will finally have a place in our home.

Restoring them has been a bittersweet journey, but it has been a meaningful way to honor C and finish what he started. It honors too those who came before and cherished the tables and the lamp formerly known as a pitcher. In preserving them, I hope I have done my part to keep their stories alive for our grandchildren. Like C, I want them to know where these treasured pieces came from and to understand that they embody the craftsmanship, care, and enduring legacy of the hands that created them. My hope is that, as they become part of future family gatherings, they will continue to connect each new generation to those who came before. It’s what C would have wanted.

Post Script: Since 2023, and with the help of various friends, we have finished the roof over the wood pile, put up the shelf in the dining area using the hardware that C had ordered just a couple of weeks before he died, hooked up the container to collect water from the AC, and replaced the defunct ceiling fans in the living and guest rooms. I think that’s everything that C had started.

Monday, May 25, 2026

This really happened Friday morning as I was driving to exercise class: a well dressed woman was walking her little white poodle across North Decatur Road at a pedestrian crosswalk close to Emory University. At exactly half way across, the dog stopped, got into position to do its business and then, oh my god, took a long, slow-motion dump. The woman realized that picking up the dog was not an option and tried unsuccessfully to pull the dog to the other side of the road. The dog simply would not budge until he had finished creating a perfect, emoji worthy pile of poop. Once the process had begun, negotiations were over. The exasperated owner fumbled around for a baggie and cleaned up its mess, avoiding eye contact with everyone. The rest of us became unwilling viewers trapped in embarrassed silence, watching a tiny poodle conduct its personal business on a pristine brick crosswalk. It was one of those painfully cinematic moments where the timing was perfect: not before the crosswalk, not after — right in the center of traffic. The poor woman had to do the responsible thing and none of us could honk because she was doing exactly what she was supposed to do.

For several painful minutes the world stopped for an awkward impromptu theater performance featuring a small white poodle with absolutely no regard for traffic, social norms, or the dignity of its owner. And honestly, as traffic waited and strangers stared fixedly ahead pretending not to notice, the dog seemed to possess the calm confidence of someone who understood a basic truth the rest of us spend our lives resisting: when nature calls, it does not care about timing or one’s carefully planned morning. The poodle finished, the woman tied the bag with the quiet shame of a defeated diplomat, and together they continued across the street. But I’m sure that every driver there, like me, giggled and carried the memory of it for the rest of the day — a reminder that civilization is far more fragile than we pretend, and sometimes all it takes to bring an entire intersection to its knees is a tiny dog refusing to compromise.

April 30, 2026

This morning, I read a quote that explains everything about my life since Charlie died.

The loneliest part of getting old isn’t the solitude - it’s the slow realization that most of the connections you maintained for decades were held together by proximity, routine and obligation rather than genuine affection.

I sought therapy, I sought out old friends. I signed up for classes, attended grief group gatherings, initiated get togethers. Even though we would have a good time, it didn’t generate reciprocity and lead nowhere.

The only solution it appeared is making new friends, which at this age is difficult to do. Difficult to find persons who have similar interests and who do not have mobility, health or financial issues.

What I know for sure is that you can’t keep what is not yours, you cannot lose what you never had, and can’t hold on to something that doesn’t want to stay. Best to accept, let go, and move on.

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Writer Leo Rosten on the purpose of life:

“The purpose of life is not to be happy at all. It is to be useful, to be honorable. It is to be compassionate. It is to matter, to have it make some difference that you lived."

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People make time for those they want to make time for. If they wanted to they would. I decided I am done with people who value the friendship of others more than mine. There’s room for all of us.

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“I think we underestimate how rare it is to be understood. Today I pointed at the red lights reflecting on the rain soaked road. The whole street looked like it was glowing.

I pointed at it… you looked.

and before I could explain why I couldn’t stop staring at it, you already understood. And it made me realize something. Life become incredibly lonely when you’re constantly translating yourself. When every beautiful thing you notice, every feeling you have, every thought that excites you has to be explained before it can be understood. It’s like speaking a language no one around you knows. Maybe that’s why finding your people matters so much. Not because they agree with everything you say. But because they speak the same language as your heart. The kind of poeple who don’t make you spend your whole life trying to prove why something is beautiful, why something hurts or why something matters. They just look where you’re pointing and they see it, too.” Shravanti Dhali

A Crisis of Refrigerators - March 4, 2026

I wish I could say, like Garrison Keillor on Prairie Home Companion “…it’s been a quiet week in Lake Wobegon, Minnesota.” But that doesn’t work on so many levels. I was referring to myself, and then realized Minnesota hasn’t had an easy time lately either.

But back to me.

I came home from three relaxing days in the mountains to discover that my refrigerator had died—taking its entire contents with it. The repairman explained that fixing it would cost the same as buying a new one, and, incredibly, Lowe’s delivered a replacement the very next day.

I bought the only model that would fit the space, waited the requisite 24 hours for it to be up and running, and stocked it with fresh groceries. The following morning I discovered that, although I had purchased a refrigerator, I actually got a freezer. The container of milk was as heavy as a block of cement. My next-door neighbor kindly supplied milk for my morning coffee.

Since the issue could not be resolved over the phone (wow— Lowe’s AI chat is especially useless) I returned to Lowe’s and ordered another refrigerator, this time with a freezer on top—the only model that would fit. I was not happy about it, but didn’t feel I had much choice, and I was told I’d have to wait an entire week.

In the interim, sweet friends loaned me an under-the-counter refrigerator, which we set up in the middle of the kitchen. Once again, I bought groceries. Once again, the milk for my morning coffee fell out in chunks. None of us had thought to check the temperature. Sigh. Once again, my next-door neighbor….

She suggested that since I had a week to wait anyway, we should check other stores to see if I could find what I actually wanted: a plain vanilla, no-frills refrigerator. We went to Home Depot (lovely, but no refrigerator), Best Buy (especially bad customer service), and finally BrandSmart, where we met a Venezuelan salesman who spoke Italian(!)

There, I ordered what’s called a “convertible freezer,” meaning it can function either as a freezer OR a refrigerator. They’re made for hunters who keep a freezer in the garage—or, more accurately, for hunters whose wives make them keep their meat in the garage. Given my now seven-day history with freezers, this made me nervous. The Venezuelan assured me it would work; the delivery men were less convinced. They plugged it in, set it to “freeze,” instructed me to wait another nail-biting 24 hours, and then manually switch it to “refrigerate.” To be safe, I bought an appliance thermometer and placed it in the middle of the refrigerator as an impartial third party. And it all… worked.

Nine days, four stores, four refrigerators, two supermarket runs and several days of gastric distress later, I finally have a functioning refrigerator. There are still a few minor details to work out, but in the end it’s pretty nice. When I open the door, a little bell rings that, for some reason, calls to mind Lily Tomlin as Ernestine, the phone operator on Laugh-In: one ringy-dingy… two ringy-dingy.. It makes me smile.

February 7, 2026

The song “Beneath My Skin” by Jerry’s Sound Room has been circling my head for days now—largely because it’s on repeat on my iPhone. I play it several times a day: first thing in the morning, while I make the bed, on the drive to exercise class, and again on the way home. I tell myself it would be the perfect anthem if I smoked cigarettes and drank gin. Certain lyrics land with particular force: “I can’t unlove where you’ve been,” and “the place where your touch begins even when the light comes in.”

I don’t know what place the composer had in mind, but for me, that place is our house. I can’t unlove our house.

Over the past three years, I’ve been asked—more times than I can count—when I’m going to sell it, or when I’ll move somewhere new. My answer is always the same: And then where would I live? The question is annoying, and frankly, it’s nobody’s business. This isn’t just a piece of real estate. It isn’t simply four walls and a roof over my head. It is so much more than that—so layered with memory, presence, and touch—that I don’t think people who haven’t lived this kind of loss can fully understand what it means to stay. I read somewhere that home is not a place, it’s moment. It’s complicated.

And so if you are reading this, I ask that you don’t ask me when I will leave. I can’t unlove where I’ve been. This house still knows us, and for now, it still knows me.

October 30, 2025

Stringimi da lassù

E ti penso con quel sorriso

che mi scaldava l’anime.

so che sei ancora li,

a vegliare su di me.

Stringimi forte da lassù,

perché qui senza di te

la vita è più fredda e dura.

yasmin alma, “Nel Cuore Dove Tu Rimani”

Hold me from up there

And I think of you with that smile

that warms my soul,

I know you are still here,

watching over me.

Hold me close from up there because

here without you

life is colder and hard.

Yasmin Alma

In the Heart Where You Remain